Assignment #1 Week of May 19

Dear Division 16,

Here is your homework from Naslishah about last week’s Virtues lesson:

We learned about companioning last workshop. This is a very valuable communication skill that:

requires deep listening
is most effective when we don’t have an “agenda”
is meant to support and empower, not fix or rescue
primarily consists of silence and open-ended questions
requires trust in the other person’s process
requires compassion for the person and detachment from the situation

Please practice this companioning technique with a friend or a family member using the chart, you were in class,given as a guide. Write few lines about your experience: what did you like about it? how did the other person feel afterwards? what was most helpful?

16 comments

  1. coolschoolscout

    I found that asking questions and trying to understand people is much more effective than being dismissive and coming to a conclusion right away. Because you pay more attention to the person, they feel that you are interested, and that you can make them feel better. I liked the fact that my family felt more concentrated, and they could solve any problem with us helping each other out instead of ignoring the person or people in need. My family felt much better afterwards, probably because we all thought together, and nobody had any bad feelings when it was time to stop discussing.

    • naslithony

      I appreciate your thoughtfulness and consideration in trying to understand how your family members are feeling. It sounds like your family had a really great experience with the companioning process.

    • naslithony

      I appreciate your thoughtfulness and consideration in trying to understand the feelings of your family members. It sounds like you and your family have resolved issues peacefully.

  2. balloongirl123

    I found that when somebody was ready there story to me I got to know that person really well.But when I was telling my story it gets me back to my childhood. So sometimes I am worried for myself. When my partner was telling his story to me it was about how he was scared and worried to go to high school.

  3. fireboltseer21345

    ❤ I found that when you had that conversation you saw a whole other side of the person you were talking to. It also felt like you were being super kind to that person and I thought "why don't I do this more"?. When I asked my mom how it made her feel to have that conversation and she said that it made her feel like she was now prepared to face her challenge. ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤

    • naslithony

      I recognize the kindness and caring that you have shown your mom by companioning her. I am glad that the experience was beneficial for both of you.

  4. Scarletcat

    I found that when I talked to someone using the “companion technique” I found out more about them and how they really feel about a certain problem or change in their life. I liked this technique because I felt like it helped them open up their worry and problems and address the situation thoughtfully. The person I talked to said that they felt better afterwards and that it helped to talk to someone about it. The person I talked to also said that they saw the problem clearer now and they had figured out what to do and how to face the challenge.

    • naslithony

      You have shown initiative and courage to try out companioning with your friend. I am glad to hear that there was more clarity at the end of the process.

  5. PointyHedgeHog11

    The family member I companioned said that they felt more relaxed and open about the problem.
    I personally felt like I was bringing light on the problem. I also learned things I didn’t know about my family member. My family member said that me companioning with them helped solve there problem.

    • naslithony

      I admire your sincerity in trying to get to the bottom of things and shed more light to the situation. It sounds like your perseverance paid off and your family member was able to solve the problem on their own.

  6. ginger

    When I asked my mother about what was troubling her, she was very open and willing to share. The companion technique is a better way to really understand and help the other person connect with the problem. When I was asking open ended questions it made me feel like I was giving my mom lots of room to say what she needed to say and come to a conclusion about what was troubling her. She told me that this technique was helpful because it gave her time to process her feelings better, figure out what support she needed and what she was going to do to solve the problem.

    • naslithony

      I appreciate your mindfulness and caring when you used companioning with your mom. It sounds like asking open ended questions helped your mom come to an understanding of the situation and what type of support she needed.

  7. THE_MOST_AWESOME_PERSON3710

    I found that that when I was talking to my mom it toke a while for her to open up and tell me but it really helped her later on. It was really great for my mom because I had made what was happening more clearer to her what she had to do. The biggest help was the listening because my mom really is better when she has someone listening to her opinions.

    • naslithony

      I appreciate the service you have shown to your mom by listening to her. It sounds like this process was helpful and your mom felt better afterwards.

  8. Jr.fruitcake

    I found that after using the technique we learned about in class it was easier to see what my Dad’s problems were and how he could fix them. I felt like it helped me see how I could talk to people and make them feel better in the future. The exercise was challenging for me because do not normally communicate this way and it was a weird change in tactic but overall I think it was helpful.

    • naslithony

      I admire your courage and purposefulness in using this technique with your dad. It sounds like you overcame your own perceptions about the process and was able to use it successfully.

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