Assignment #2 Week of April 13

Dear Division 16,

I’m so proud of the thinking you’re doing when we discuss the Virtues, and so glad you are getting the chance to learn so much about interactions and the importance and power of language.

For your blog assignment this week, reflect back on Naslishah’s lesson this past Wednesday on Speaking the Language of Virtues.

Remember that there are usually three elements of a virtues statement:

1) an opening phrase; 2) a virtue; 3) how the virtue is being shown or needs to be shown.

For example, to acknowledge and thank someone, one might say, “It was courageous of you to face that challenge”.Β  To guide, you might say, “How can we show courtesy when our visitor comes?” and to correct, you might say something like, “What would help you be tactful, even when you’re irritated?”

For your homework this week, please describe a situation and give an example where you acknowledged, guided or corrected someone by speaking the language of virtues.Β  Remember to use the three elements of a virtues statement.

I look forward to your responses.

35 comments

  1. Scarletcat

    My situation takes place when I still went to the annex, and I had a friend who would get picked on and teased a lot because she would cry easily and was really sensitive. I usually would defend her or she would just shake the comment off. But one day she stood up for herself and told the person what they made her feel and how they hurt her with their words. After she talked to them I told her that I thought what she did was respectful and that she was really brave and that I admired what she did to stick up for herself. I still think about how brave she was and how it actually stopped the bullying.

    • ST Carl

      It takes a lot of courage to stand up to a bully. It is best to deal with any form of conflict in a calm and peaceful manner, even if it seems hard to do. I am glad your friend was able to overcome the situation, and that you were there to support them.

  2. coolschoolscout

    What would happen if everyone in the world was patient and understanding? My situation was when I was at a camp during spring break. I remembered this kid who yelled at everyone when they were slow, or when he didn’t get his way. He didn’t understand that some people like to take their time when they do things, as he would rush when we did an activity. I would just ignore him, but one time he yelled at my friend and said very mean things, and a few cuss words too. I immediately told him that there was no reason for swearing. I guided him and told him that being patient would earn him a lot more respect, and that he could hopefully understand that not all people are fast, but detail oriented. I think he learned a lesson that day, and learned a virtue as well.

    • ST Carl

      Sometimes people don’t realize how the way they act affects the people around them, but once you show them the errors in their ways, they can learn to correct them. I am glad you were able to reason and show him a new perspective.

  3. Jr.fruitcake

    My situation is the field when we were playing manhunt last year some people would be chosen unfairly by a kid to be it. We (as in the rest of us) would have to say something like “common be fair he doesn’t always deserve to be it”. Although when we play now that still sometimes happens I think that the more we tell the kid not to the less he does.
    In this way the language of virtues existed for me long before Naslisha came to our class.

    • naslithony

      I appreciate your sense of justice in making sure that kids take turn becoming it for manhunt. It is important to reinforce the message of fairness and friendliness.

  4. Ginger

    Speaking the language of virtues is very important to use with family members, friends, colleagues and strangers. We need to give everyone we interact with respect. Once, I was having an argument with a close friend but, unfortunately, I was going on vacation the next day. Through the whole trip I thought about how I may have come across harshly and ways I could make it up to her. When I came back a week later, I told her that I had not been very considerate about listening to her side of the argument and I should have had more respect for her ideas. After that, she forgave me and we became good friends again.

    • ST Carl

      The fact you felt troubled by your actions during your trip shows how concerned you were about how your actions made your friend feel. Your feelings were translated in how you dealt with the situation in a very thoughtful manner.

  5. petrinied4000

    The situation I’m thinking of, happens in my house a lot. My brother and I get in to fights a lot and usually, it’s about silly stuff, For example, a while ago, we were arguing about who gets the biggest meatball. The meatballs were very similar and our mom said that they were exactly the same. That was pretty much true and I knew it. My brother and I need to ask our selves: What can we do to be more reasonable, even we are annoyed. That way, my brother and I could get along much better.

    • ST Carl

      That is a good statement to help you get along with your brother. It is important that you tell him about the virtue so both of you can participate in reaching the same goal. You could also be the role model for him to follow.

  6. vid3o g@m3r

    This may not sound like everybody else’s post’s, but I will try to make it look the same.The situation I will talk about is when a kid used to bully me in my class just because of the books I read. they were called according to them: ” girl books “.Now, I know this may sound silly, but I for a while I thought they were right. I stopped reading those books and read different books. But then one day there was a new book in the series and of course I looked at that book and those kids teased me again and called me a girl. But then I told them they had to understand that I was allowed to read any type of book I want and it didn’t matter to them what I read. So then they understood and were very kind to me. So now I read those books all the time and nobody tells me anything.

    • Subway2go

      I admire your courage to stand up for what you believe in and read the that bring you joyfulness. By standing your ground, you were able to maintain your dignity and be honest about your preferences. Thanks for sharing.

    • naslithony

      I honour your courage in speaking out and continuing to read the books that bring you joyfulness. You have earned your friends’ respect and maintained your dignity by being true to yourself.

  7. Subway2go

    The situation I choose was when my friend was picking on my brother about his size. I can’t remember the exact words he used. Then I said, how could have you said that in a more respectful way. Then he apologized in a respectful way then said some thing nice about his height. I never really knew they were virtues until a couple of years ago.

    • naslithony

      I honour your assertiveness in defending your brother and requesting friends to speak more respectfully. I am sure that your brother appreciated your thoughtful gesture. Thanks for sharing.

  8. cheese curds

    There was one time my friend got really angry at me and he said a bunch of swear words and I think that what I could say to him if that happened again was. “You don’t need to get angry, you are a good person.” That is using a virtue instead of telling him off.

    • naslithony

      You are practicing friendliness and generosity of spirit when you don’t get angry and respond in a gentle, yet a firm, manner to be treated in a certain way. I admire your courage and self respect in speaking out.

  9. PointyHedgeHog11

    When I was in Grade 2 , I had a problem with a friend.
    My friend really didn’t like a a person and told me I was not allowed to play with them .
    I played with them anyway but, my freind found out and was very upset .
    I think my friend could have been more considerate of my feelings .
    I am allowed to make my own decisions.

    • naslithony

      I appreciate your self confidence in making the decisions that are just right for you and not get influenced by others’ opinions. You showed faithfulness and fidelity by continuing to be friends with your friend.

  10. gigatool2_is_a_girl

    My situation is one time, in my old class and that me and my friends had plants in the classroom because our teacher let us. There was a person that had been taking out our plants in the pot and if that keep happening, our plant’s will die soon or later, the think is one of our friend had plant and her plant never came out out the plant pot.and that has been happening for the last few week. But a few weeks later she tell me that she is “The plant killer”! We call the one that is taking out our plant is “The plant killer”. When she told me about that I was SO MAD on the inside but on the outside I tricked her that I wouldn’t tell that she is “The plant killer”. So a day later I told my friend that she is “The plant killer”. The thing is we ‘trusted’ each other but she didn’t, I said a week later be ‘Respected’ please. πŸ˜”

  11. balloongirl123

    so sometimes if someone call’s me names or just say bad language I would say to that person stop that’s not nice or sometimes I would tell an adult that someone is making fun of me.

    • naslithony

      Thank you for being assertive and showing self-respect by speaking out. If the situation does not improve, it is a great idea to involve an adult to call the person to the virtue they are missing.

  12. THE_MOST _AWESOME _PERSON3710

    My situation is when I was in grade1 and I was with a group of my friends and one of them was saying something mean to the other one and it had made her cry so I went up to the one who was being mean and said that she was not being nice and that you are be unkind to her and you are hurting her feelings.

    • naslithony

      I appreciate your initiative and assertiveness for standing up for your friend. You showed empathy and compassion for your friend’s situation and made a difference. Thanks for sharing.

  13. reader

    when I was in gr.2 a group of people were being mean to me, I told them to stop and they didn’t listen to me and I kept on telling them to stop and they still wouldn’t listen to me. After that I told on them to my teacher my teacher told them it wasn’t nice of what they were doing and she told them to apologize she also said that it was the right thing to do, to tell a teacher if someone is making you feel bad.

    • naslithony

      It takes courage an dilligence to continue speaking out and asking for respects from classmates. I appreciate your commitment to this cause and it was resourceful of you to involve a teacher to help you. Thanks for sharing.

  14. The awesomest

    When I was in kindergarten, grade 1 and grade 2 my friends all fought over me and I tried to hang out with all of them but they still fought. A virtue statement that I could have used would be ” Try to be more welcoming to other people.”

    • naslithony

      I appreciate your sense of justice and fairness in playing with all your friends and not ditching any of them. You showed friendliness and unity by your welcoming approach.

  15. Cheeseman ABC123

    My sister and I get into arguments about stuff that we really shouldn’t be arguing about one of them is when we were arguing over who’s is who’s and I should of said something like this ” How can we be more reasonable ?” or ” How are we able to resolve this?”.

    • naslithony

      I appreciate your honesty about the types of arguments you are having and also appreciate your desire to have a more peaceful relationship with your sister. You can use excellence and friendliness to improve your relationship with your sibling.

  16. fireboltseer21345

    I do extra buddy reading for kids who are still learning to read. My little buddy was having some self confidence barriers and I told her: “I know you can do it, you’re a great reader and you learn super fast you just have to try and then you’ll know you can do it” It really helped her confidence and helped her to read. πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀

    • naslithony

      I am amazed at your devotion and enthusiasm for your little buddy. I am sure your positive encouragement made a huge difference in her confidence levels. Thanks for sharing.

  17. Aldwyn 2000

    I often fight with my sister. One time we were fighting and it was over how to say a word, (my sister often reads to me when my mom and dad are busy) and I told her that maybe if you listened to me you would understand what it means. she did. even if it took a little while. I also told her that if she listened to us more often that she could read better.

    • naslithony

      You were really patient with your sister and called her to excellence in her reading. When you communicate with her with love and kindness, she will be more ready to hear your message. Thanks for sharing.

  18. lightningboy123

    my situation is about my older brother he annoys me everytime so we always get into fights I always get mad about him annoying me everytime. I think he should respect me a little more so I told him that a few months ago.

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